It’s been said that divorce and separation are among life’s most challenging events, but what if you could reframe your thoughts to turn yours into an empowering experience? If you’re here right now, the chances are that you’ve just received divorce news, you’re thinking about filing, or you’re in the middle of one. Seeing divorce as an opportunity to reinvent and empower yourself is possible, and we’re here to help you get there.
Planning for Divorce
1.Get into the right mindset
With all the hustle and bustle that happens with a divorce, it’s important to take a step back and breathe. Divorce is painful for everyone, even the strongest individuals find it difficult, but you have the power to direct that pain elsewhere. This may require you to change your mindset. Think about what you want to get out of the divorce process and how you will practically work towards those goals.
2. Let go of blame
You may hold on to resentment and anger towards your spouse, but this ultimately leads to a road that ends up costing you more stress and emotional heartache. Blaming them is not only disempowering, but it can delay your positive transition. Remember, you can only control your actions and emotions. Again, it’s important to stay focused on your ultimate goals and avoid getting sidetracked by the pain you may be feeling.
3. Realize you are in charge
Whether your relationship lasted 15 years or 24 months, adjusting to single status won’t be easy. After leaning on someone else for so long, it’s time to shift the focus back on yourself. You have the power to make smart decisions about the outcome of your divorce. If it feels like your life is out of control, a good starting point is to seek a divorce attorney to put your trust in. Having an experienced advocate thinking about your best interests by your side will make all the difference during this process.
Rebuilding Yourself After Divorce
1. Allow yourself time to grieve
In your efforts to be empowered, you may suppress emotions, but it’s okay to let them out. Give yourself time to feel the heartbreak, anger, and sadness, but don’t become consumed by them. Only you will know when the grieving period is over, but you can take charge of your personal growth journey once it's over.
2. Be kind to yourself
You’ve just gone through the wringer; it’s time to enter the next chapter of your life. But if you’re in a self-deprecating place, how can you expect to move forward? You need to practice self-love to transition to a place of gratitude. Start by doing something for yourself every day— it can be something as small as treating yourself to ice cream or as big as going on a solo trip.
3. Evaluate your relationships
Are the people closest to you supportive? Do they inspire you to do better? Surrounding yourself with those who you trust and empower you will help you on this journey. It might be smart to reevaluate the relationships you have with those who are continually bringing you down.
Here to Bring You Peace of Mind
Empowerment probably won't happen overnight, but by taking these steps, you are paving the way to a destination you are in charge of and feel good about. Our divorce attorneys at Bass & Tigner, P.C. are here to guide you through each step, from filing the paperwork to signing on the dotted line, with compassion.
If you have any questions or concerns about your divorce, do not hesitate to contact our Angleton family lawyers. Reach us by calling (979) 316-7133 to schedule your consultation today.